Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

Is it unloving or selfish to set a boundary? Are Christians ever called to walk away from a relationship that’s no longer safe or sustainable? Lysa TerKeurst deeply understands these hard questions in the midst of relational struggles.

But after thousands of hours of counseling intensives and extensive theological research that transformed the way she defined healthy relationships, Lysa is now more committed than ever to loving people well without losing the best of who she is. She wants to help you do the same. In these pages Lysa will help you:

• Understand the five factors to remember when implementing healthy boundaries.
• Determine the appropriate amount of personal and emotional access someone has to you based on how responsible they’ll be with that access.
• Stop being misled and emotionally paralyzed by wrongly interpreted or weaponized scriptures that perpetuate unhealthy dynamics in difficult relationships.
• Overcome the frustrating cycle of ineffective boundary-setting with realistic scripts and practical strategies to help you communicate, keep, and implement healthier patterns.
• Be equipped to say goodbye without guilt when a relationship has shifted from difficult to destructive and is no longer sustainable.
• Receive therapeutic wisdom you can trust directly from Lysa’s Christian counselor Jim Cress, who weighs in throughout the book.

You’ll be relieved to learn that boundaries aren’t just a good idea, they’re a God idea.

Lysa TerKeurst is president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the author of more than twenty-five books, including It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way and the #1 New York Times bestsellers Forgiving What You Can’t Forget and Uninvited. She writes from her family’s farm table and lives in North Carolina. Connect with her at LysaTerKeurst.com or on social media @LysaTerKeurst.