Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference

Most couples are mismatched in some way and would like to know: “Are we normal?” “Why isn’t my spouse as interested in sex as I am?” “I don’t want to feel pressured, but don’t want to disappoint my spouse either–what do I do?” “How do we handle the impact of medication, menopause, porn, ED, pain . . . ?” Most importantly, “How can we get on the same page and create a thriving intimate life?”

Based on vast clinical experience and their breakthrough research-information you can trust, Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma identify eight simple, transformational factors to help you move from disconnection to delight.

This book is not a “sex manual.” It is a practical guide that will help you intimately understand your spouse and create the marriage you’ve always wanted.

Michael Sytsma is passionate about marriage and helping couples grow in their marriage. His giftedness in teaching helps couples learn important truths about marriage in a fun and interesting way.

A Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Sex Therapist, and Certified Professional Counseling Supervisor, Dr. Sytsma is also an ordained minister with The Wesleyan Church. He received his Ph.D. specializing in marital sexual therapy, with an original research dissertation on “Sexual Desire Discrepancy in Married Couples.”

Co-founder of Sexual Wholeness, Inc. he is currently the founder and senior therapist at Building Intimate Marriages. He is a professor at several seminaries including Asbury, Dallas Theological, Denver Seminary, Reformed Theological, and Richmont Graduate. Michael is a contributor to several books including Celebration of Sex (Rosenau), Sanctified Sexuality (Barnes), Counseling Techniques (Thomas), and Sexual Intimacy in Marriage (Curtrer). He co-authored Secrets of Sex & Marriage with Shaunti Feldhahn. He and his wife Karen live in Atlanta GA, have been married since 1985 and have two sons and one daughter-in-law.

Shaunti Feldhahn received her graduate degree from Harvard University and was an analyst on Wall Street before unexpectedly becoming a social researcher, best-selling author and popular speaker. Today, she applies her analytical skills to investigating eye-opening, life-changing truths about relationships, both at home and in the workplace. Her groundbreaking research-based books, such as For Women Only, have sold more than 3 million copies in 25 languages and are widely read in homes, counseling centers and corporations worldwide.

Shaunti’s findings are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show and Focus on the Family, The New York Times and Cosmo. She (often with her husband, Jeff) speaks at 50 events a year around the world. Shaunti and her husband Jeff live in Atlanta with their teenage daughter and son, and two cats who think they are dogs.